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Tuesday, 25 March 2014

People Treat You According to What You Think about Yourself

Once Sir Francis Galton, one of the most notable figures in the history of psychology, decided to conduct a kind of experiment. Before his daily walk through the streets of London, he persuaded himself: “I am a disgusting person and everyone in England hates me!” After that, he concentrated on this belief for a few minutes and then went for a walk as he usually did.


However, it just seemed that everything was going as usual. In fact, the following happened: at every step, Francis caught queasy and contemptuous glances of passers on him. Many turned away from him, and a couple of times he heard coarse language in his address. In the port one of the movers, when Galton passed him by, hit the scientist with his elbow so much that he plopped down in the mud.


It seemed that even the animals had this hostile attitude towards him. As the scientist passed by a harnessed horse, it kicked him in the thigh, so that he fell to the ground again. Galton tried to elicit some sympathy from eyewitnesses, but to his surprise, people were on the side of the animal.


Galton hurried home, without waiting until his thought experiment would lead to even more serious consequences.


This true story is described in many psychology textbooks. From it we can draw two important conclusions:


1. People treat you according to what you think about yourself.
2. No need to inform others about your self-esteem and emotional state. Be sure that they feel it anyway.


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Thursday, 5 December 2013

People Treat You According to What You Think about Yourself

Once Sir Francis Galton, one of the most notable figures in the history of psychology, decided to conduct a kind of experiment. Before his daily walk through the streets of London, he persuaded himself: “I am a disgusting person and everyone in England hates me!” After that, he concentrated on this belief for a few minutes and then went for a walk as he usually did.


However, it just seemed that everything was going as usual. In fact, the following happened: at every step, Francis caught queasy and contemptuous glances of passers on him. Many turned away from him, and a couple of times he heard coarse language in his address. In the port one of the movers, when Galton passed him by, hit the scientist with his elbow so much that he plopped down in the mud.


It seemed that even the animals had this hostile attitude towards him. As the scientist passed by a harnessed horse, it kicked him in the thigh, so that he fell to the ground again. Galton tried to elicit some sympathy from eyewitnesses, but to his surprise, people were on the side of the animal.


Galton hurried home, without waiting until his thought experiment would lead to even more serious consequences.


This true story is described in many psychology textbooks. From it we can draw two important conclusions:


1. People treat you according to what you think about yourself.
2. No need to inform others about your self-esteem and emotional state. Be sure that they feel it anyway.


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Thursday, 21 November 2013

Four myths about healthy sex busted

 

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Dr. Jennifer Berman, the director of the Berman Women’s Wellness Center and the author of ‘For Women Only’ has busted the top four top myths that couples shouldn’t buy into.


The first myth is that both need to be in the mood. The fact is that it is normal for sex to be a little ho-hum for one or both spouses up to 15 per cent of the time, Fox News reported.


Many factors can throw things a bit off-kilter: timing, your mood or the partner’s, the amount of foreplay, life stresses, you name it but rather than postponing it, have sex when you can-and don’t interpret an off night as a sign of a failing relationship.


Second myth is that the best sex is spontaneous, expecting sex to just happen at the spur-of-the-moment can lead to long dry spells, whereas writing it in on the calendar is a show of commitment; plus, it gives the couple something to anticipate.


Third myth is that a couple should have sex three times a week. Having sex regularly nourishes a relationship, but couple shouldn’t get too caught up in the counting, as most happy couples don’t have sex every day or even two or three times a week.


Fourth myth is that good sex is long and slow but few people can afford the luxury of leisurely sex, in fact most of the people secretly think it sounds like more work after an exhausting day and holding out for the ideal moment can lead to infrequent or worse, vacation-only sex.


Plus:


Five ways to heal 'sexless marriage'
Sex secrets of happily married couples revealed
More travel means better sex


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Middle-aged women happier than men about their sex lives

 

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A survey has found middle-aged women are more satisfied with their sex lives as they get older, despite having less sex and admitting that their partners have performance issues in the bedroom.


Men, on the other hand, say they are less satisfied as time goes by, Daily Mail reported.


In a survey of 1,000 heterosexual couples, it was found that while nearly three-quarters of married or cohabiting women between ages 50 and 79 said they were satisfied with their sex lives, only half of men of the same age agreed.


Of those aged between 50 and 59, about 16 percent of the men were very dissatisfied with their sex lives compared to only 10 percent of the women.


It was found that women were generally satisfied with their sex lives if they felt they were getting as much or as little sex as they wanted. The actual frequency itself was not a determinant of satisfaction.


Plus:
The herbal way to boosting sex life
Top 10 tips to boost your sex life
It’s official! Most women fake orgasms


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Men and women lie about sex to match gender stereotypes

 

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Washington: Men and women will lie about their sexual behavior to match cultural expectations about how they should act - even though they wouldn't distort other gender-related behaviors, a new research has suggested.


The study found that men were willing to admit that they sometimes engaged in behaviors seen by college students as more appropriate for women, such as writing poetry.


The same was true for women, who didn't hide the fact that they told obscene jokes, or sometimes participated in other "male-type" deeds.


But when it came to sex, men wanted to be seen as "real men:" the kind who had many partners and a lot of sexual experience. Women, on the other hand, wanted to be seen as having less sexual experience than they actually had, to match what is expected of women.


"There is something unique about sexuality that led people to care more about matching the stereotypes for their gender," said Terri Fisher, author of the study and professor of psychology at The Ohio State University's Mansfield campus.


"Sexuality seemed to be the one area where people felt some concern if they didn't meet the stereotypes of a typical man or a typical woman," Fisher noted.


Fisher discovered how people would honestly respond to questions about sexuality and other gender-role behaviors by asking some study participants questions when they thought they were hooked up to a lie detector machine.


Participants were 293 college students between the ages of 18 and 25.


This result confirms what Fisher found in an earlier study, back in 2003 - with one important difference.


Back in 2003, women went from having fewer sexual partners than men (when not hooked up to a lie detector) to being essentially even to men (when hooked up to the lie detector.)


In this new study, women actually reported more sexual partners than men when they were both hooked up to a lie detector and thought they had to be truthful.


Fisher said the results of the study might actually be stronger than what was found here.


The study appeared in a recent issue of the journal Sex Roles.


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Tuesday, 9 July 2013

What You Need to Know About Your Colon

No one likes to discuss colon health. But it’s serious business, and learning about it—and what you can do to take care of your colon—can help ensure you and your loved ones lead healthier lives.

Here, Benjamin Hopkins, MD, a Duke Medicine colon and rectal surgeon, touches every condition you don’t want to talk about – from hemorrhoids, and fecal incontinence to anal pain and diverticulitis.

Q. What’s the most important thing to do for colorectal health?

A. The best approach to good colorectal health is to maintain a high-fiber diet and drink plenty of water. Eight glasses of water a day helps prevent constipation. A high-fiber diet will help prevent complications of hemorrhoids and anal tears and will help to prevent diverticulitis.

Q. Most people know that surgery is used to treat colorectal cancer, but what other conditions do you treat with surgery?

A. Surgery is necessary to treat recurrent or complicated bouts of diverticulitis and inflammatory bowel diseases that don’t respond to other treatment. It is also used to treat benign problems of the anus and rectum when conservative management fails.

Q. Can surgery really cure these conditions?

A. Yes! That’s why I love my job so much.

Q Does surgery leave an ugly scar?

A. We specialize in minimally invasive surgery, including robotic, laparoscopic, and single-site surgeries, which leave patients with smaller scars, less pain, and a faster recovery. There is no scar from transanal endoscopic microsurgery since all work is done through the anus.

Q. What are hemorrhoids, exactly, and how do you know if you have them?

A. Everyone has hemorrhoids—they are part of our anatomy. It’s just a question of whether they’re bothering you. Hemorrhoids can become aggravated with changes in bowel habits, such as diarrhea and constipation. Over the years, they can pull away from the underlying muscle, prolapse, and bleed. Prolapse means something is hanging out “down there.” Typically, hemorrhoids cause people to experience itching, bleeding, and prolapse. Pregnancy can also cause hemorrhoids to become engorged because of the increased pelvic pressure.

Q. How are hemorrhoids treated when they become aggravated?

A. Initial management includes increasing the amount of fiber and water in the diet. Most of my patients find that’s all that is needed. Be sure to increase fiber slowly: I tell people to increase daily intake by 5 grams for a week, then another 5 grams for another week, until they reach 20 to 25 grams per day. That way they avoid bloating and gassiness. If adding fiber to your diet doesn’t work, there are simple and painless office procedures to treat hemorrhoids. If these fail, surgery may be the next step. One of the procedures my colleague, Linda Farkas, MD, and I perform is a transanal hemorrhoidal de-arterialization (THD). It is a less-painful way to treat hemorrhoids than a standard hemorrhoidectomy. Not all hemorrhoids can be treated with a THD; treatment depends on the severity of the hemorrhoids.

Ben Hopkins, MD, is part of the team at Duke Colon and Rectal Surgery of Raleigh. To make an appointment, call 888-ASK-DUKE (275-3853).


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Why All The Buzz About Gluten-Free

Today, gluten-free products and diets are all the rage. In fact, a recent study finds as many as 1.6 million Americans avoid gluten, even though they haven’t been diagnosed with celiac disease or gluten sensitivity.

Although there is no harm in eliminating gluten from your diet, doctors say there is no reason to avoid it—unless you’re one of the two million people who cannot tolerate the proteins.

“Gluten is bad for some people, but certainly not all,” explains Michelle Nacouzi, MD, a primary care physician at Duke Primary Care Brier Creek. “So unless you’ve been diagnosed with celiac disease or gluten sensitivity, gluten-free products aren’t necessarily going to give you a health benefit.”

What Is Celiac Disease?

Once considered a rare childhood disorder, celiac was frequently misdiagnosed and just as frequently overlooked. Today, doctors are more attuned to the seemingly vague symptoms that can signal celiac disease, and diagnose it frequently in children as well as adults.

“Celiac disease is now estimated to be four times more common than it was 50 years ago,” Nacouzi says. “And more advanced diagnostic tests may be the reason it seems to be on the rise.” But researchers also believe that the way wheat is now grown, the proliferation of processed foods, and the use of gluten in medications and vitamins, toothpaste, and lip balms, are all responsible for the increase in cases.

The main culprit in celiac disease is gluten, a protein found in wheat-, rye-, and barley-based products. Gluten triggers an immune response that makes it difficult for the body to absorb essential nutrients. In a healthy body, long, fingerlike protrusions called villi line the small intestine and aid in the absorption of nutrients into the bloodstream, explains Nancy McGreal, MD, a pediatric and adult gastroenterologist at Duke University Hospital. The gluten-triggered immune response damages the villi and inflames the intestinal wall. “Patients end up malnourished no matter how much they eat,” McGreal says. “They experience anemia, as well as deficiencies in vitamin D, vitamin B12, and folate.”

Genes play an important role in the development of celiac disease, but environmental exposures can also contribute. “Research is looking into whether being exposed to gluten as an infant predisposes you to getting celiac later in life,” McGreal says. Childhood intestinal infections may be a factor, too. People who have autoimmune disorders like type 1 diabetes and Down syndrome are at greater risk. Researchers are looking into whether breastfeeding may offer protection against the disease later in life.

Celiac? Gluten Sensitivity? Wheat Allergy?

About 6 percent of the population may have non celiac gluten sensitivity (NCGS), a condition that is less severe than celiac disease, and one for which there is no genetic basis and no tests to confirm its diagnosis. Symptoms include abdominal pain and headaches. There is some evidence to suggest that gluten-free diets may offer relief to sufferers of NCGS.

Wheat allergy—often confused with celiac disease—is something very different in that it is an immune-system response to gluten as opposed to a digestive system response. Wheat allergy is most common in children and can be outgrown (unlike celiac disease). Symptoms mimic those of other common childhood food allergies: itching, swelling, runny nose, watery eyes, upset stomach, and even difficulty breathing. As with all food allergies, the best treatment is to avoid the offensive food altogether.

Why Diagnosis Is Important

Celiac disease can cause a host of physical problems ranging from irritability, vomiting, and delayed puberty in kids to joint pain, depression, and anxiety in adults. In some people, the disease lies dormant until an event such as surgery, pregnancy, childbirth, viral infection, or severe emotional stress triggers a symptomatic attack.

Getting a definitive diagnosis is important, McGreal says, because “this is a lifelong condition. We don’t have a cure.”

Undiagnosed celiac disease can lead to serious health conditions including growth problems in kids, osteoporosis, infertility, seizures, and, in rare cases, various forms of cancer. If symptoms or a patient’s family history lead a physician to suspect celiac disease, blood tests are used to screen for antibodies, which signal its presence. A biopsy of the small intestine confirms the antibody tests.

The Gluten-Free Diet

The only treatment for celiac disease is a gluten-free diet. Learning to adopt it can be challenging for the newly diagnosed. Lesley Stanford, MS, RD, a pediatric nutritionist at Duke Children’s Hospital, helps patients navigate the challenges and educates them about what they can and can no longer eat. “This isn’t the easiest diet to follow,” she says. “You can’t just try it. You have to plan your grocery shopping and eating out. A true gluten-free diet is important for people with celiac disease and requires education. There’s more to it than just looking at labels to see if something contains gluten. Gluten proteins can be found in other additives.”

Fortunately, food manufacturers and even restaurants are answering the call. Gluten-free products by the shelf load can be found everywhere from supermarkets to big-box stores, and restaurants are adding gluten-free selections to their regular lineup and on the kids menu as well.

Classic Symptoms Of Celiac Disease

Abdominal cramping, intestinal gasDistention and bloating of the stomachChronic diarrhea or constipation (or both)Fatty stoolsAnemia—unexplained, or due to folic acid, b12, or iron (or all) deficiencyUnexplained weight loss with large appetite or weight gain infants, toddlers, and young children who have celiac disease may often exhibit growth failure, vomiting, bloated abdomen, behavioral changes, and failure to thrive.Sources: Celiac Disease Foundation, American Journal of Gastroenterology


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